Knowing Doesn’t Solve Anything

Diva and her squeak in the violets. Always and forever, Love wins.

little baby girl
I hear you pitter patter
alongside me

feel your kisses
on my nose
your gentle breath
on my cheeks

notice your new-found ease
with all that once startled

you are whole

and your body has left us

I long to hold you again
to run and play
and climb all the tall things
with you

to offer your squeak
again and again
and again and again

where you are
is different
yet your beautiful light
remains with us

you carved a place in my heart
polished it smooth with your love
and in response
my heart grew and grew

so now your love
flows unimpeded
a river overflowing

you are
always and forever

you taught me
my precious girl,

love wins

My days are different without her.

There are moments of “normal”. There are moments of fond memories.

And there are moments of regret.

The moments of regret are heavy. The wishing for something different.

More walks
More play
More toys
More treats

The wondering what would have saved her.

What took her body from us?
What more could we have done for her?

Did I fail her?

These questions sear my heart, burning deep into me.

I want to know.

I don’t want to know.

Was she happy?
Even at the end?

Did she have all she needed?
Even at the end?

I know these questions serve no-one.

That the deep dark abyss of regret and guilt changes nothing and brings no light.

But the moments descend on me often. Sometimes for a split second, other times I walk through my day pushing through their heavy stickiness.

Wave of water over gently coloured pebbles, love overflowing from my busted open heart.I know she doesn’t want me to be sad.

I know she doesn’t understand regret.

I know she wants me to feel only love.

But knowing doesn’t stop me from feeling this sometimes.

And maybe that’s the lesson here.

Knowing doesn’t change anything.

Knowing doesn’t really help.

Having the answers to any of these questions, would change nothing, would help no-one.

I had planned to do a “letting go” ritual yesterday as the moon moved into my opposing sign of Aries.

I performed no ritual.

It felt as if my entire week last week was letting go. I guess I felt I’d earned a pass.

Instead of a ritual to let go, I talked to my soul-family – those sisters of the ether that are the weave and the weft of my heart.

I sorted through photos from a dozen years of our family shenanigans, creating folders to make it easier to find a picture when I search her name.

So many moments of sheer joy, of delight, of trust.

13 years together is a long time in dog years. And in heart years.

And the lessons I’m learning, as I flail through this hollow sadness, are all about love, are all about trust.

And are all about not needing to know, because knowing doesn’t solve anything.

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3 Responses to Knowing Doesn’t Solve Anything

  1. sorrow March 5, 2014 at 7:35 am #

    Bless you for your real, for your sharing and loving and being.
    Bless you and the pain you feel,
    and Sending you hugs and love…

  2. Sue Kearney ( March 5, 2014 at 4:19 pm #

    Honestly, Teresa, you speak directly to my heart. Thank you!!!

  3. Jenny March 6, 2014 at 7:00 am #

    This is so raw, and so beautiful.

    I celebrate your conscious exploration of this process and the gifts it brings. Huge hugs and Big Love <3

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